When A Child Dies

“Betty Greenman really comforted me after my baby died.  I appreciated the time she took to just listen to me and hear what I had to say.  I have a big hole in my heart that will never go away.  The pain never stops or goes away.”                                                                                                           Cindy G.
When a Child Dies; To Our Little Angels up In Heaven, you will never be forgotten.

      First of all, I’m sorry about the lose of your baby.  If you want to talk about it, please feel free to e mail me.  Mothers who have lost their baby after 20 weeks gestation may become engorged and feel their breasts are full of breast milk.  I am here to make you feel and remain comfortable while the breast milk dries up.  Once you feel ready to speak, don’t hesitate to call the doctor and ask the doctor questions of what happened.  It used to be that women were told to bind your breast with something tight.  Actually, now it is no longer recommended.  However, you should wear a good supportive bra and lose clothes just in case the milk leaks out.  Cabbage leaves can help for engorgement as well as a cold compress for comfort.  The cabbage leaves should be put in the refrigerator so they stay cold when placed on the breast.  When placing leaves on the breast, the nipple should still be seen.  Leave the leaves on for twenty minutes.  You may have to express a little breast milk in order to remain comfortable.  A warm shower will also help relieve discomfort of a full breast.  If you were pumping your breasts or breastfeeding every 3 hours, start by pumping every 4 to 6 hours, then go to 8 hours until you no longer feel you have a need to pump your breasts for comfort.  The amount of time it takes to dry up breast milk depends on how full of a supply you have built up.  Gradually stopping breast milk is the best way.  It may take a few weeks or months until the breast milk totally dries up.  Losing a child is the hardest thing a person will do in their lifetime.  Now, an ever lasting whole has been placed in your heart.  Seeking a support group may be a good choice for you at this time.  Please contact me if I can assist you further.

Resource: AMEND Aiding Mothers and Fathers Experiencing Neonatal Death

SHARE     The National SHARE Office
 402 Jackson Street  St. Charles, MO 63301
 1-636-947-6164       1-800-821-6819
 FAX 1-636-947-7486   http://www.nationshare.org

COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS Grief support after the death of a child
1-877-969-0010     1-630-990-0010
FAX 1-630-990-0246   http://www.compassionatefriends.org/home.aspx
Bo’s Place Non Profit
10050 Buffalo Speedway
Houston, Texas  77054
(713)  942-8339
M.E.N.D non profit organization help with loss of a child
4500 Bissonnet   suite 337
Bellaire, Texas  77401